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30th May 2025

245. The Real Emotional Impact of Caregiving

On the last week of Stroke Awareness Month, we're diving deep into the emotional journey that families experience when a loved one suffers a stroke. Throughout May, I've been sharing about the profound impact that strokes have had on my family, especially on me as a caregiver to my husband, Mark, who is a four-time stroke survivor.

To start with, let me transport you back to that chilling Christmas night in 2022. I remember driving to the hospital, it was freezing cold, and I was in complete shock and disbelief, praying that Mark would be okay. These immediate feelings of shock and crisis mode are something many families go through.

Chapters:

  • 00:59 Personal Stroke Journey
  • 01:39 Emotional Impact on Families
  • 02:42 Immediate Reactions to a Stroke
  • 05:41 Living in Crisis Mode
  • 09:42 Role Reversal and Family Dynamics
  • 15:06 Long-Term Psychological Effects
  • 26:23 Coping Mechanisms and Support for Stroke Survivors and their families
  • 31:51 Honoring Joyful Moments
  • 34:49 Closing Thoughts and Resources

The initial impact is intense, but it doesn’t end there. Mark didn’t come home for seven months, moving from one hospital to another and then to rehabs. During this time, my life was filled with hypervigilance, always on high alert for fear of falls or seizures. I also share a deeply personal incident where Mark had a massive seizure, an event even more terrifying than the strokes, which left my son and me shaken for months.

The role reversals hit us hard as well. Our son, Chris, had to step into the caregiver role, something that I’m incredibly proud of yet saddened by. It's tough seeing your child taking care of their parent, but Chris has been a rock through it all. We also experienced a shift in my relationship with Mark. As his primary caregiver, our dynamic shifted away from being partners to me being more in a caretaker mode. This shift is common for many families dealing with chronic illnesses.

Long-term psychological effects are real and tough to manage. I experienced chronic anxiety and even PTSD-like symptoms, particularly after Mark’s seizure. Little things would trigger this constant state of anxiety, whether it was a cough sounding off or the fear of another stroke. Depression and grief also crept in when I least expected it. I found myself grieving the man Mark used to be and the life we had planned together, like traveling in an RV across the country or going to Europe. To cope, I’ve sought support from friends and occasionally use medication for anxiety. It’s vital to have an emergency plan. We keep a detailed medication list on the refrigerator, have a grab bag ready for hospital trips, and maintain an A, B, C plan for caregiving.

It gave me peace of mind to have these in place. Educating myself about strokes and connecting with support groups also helped me feel empowered. Yet, amidst all this, it’s crucial to honor the joyful moments. There are still beautiful, small victories to celebrate, like Mark walking up the stairs with the help of a wonderful PT or going for a walk in our neighborhood after two and a half years. These moments, although they may seem small to others, mean the world to us.

Many families are walking similar paths, dealing with the ripple effects of a loved one’s illness. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, seek help, whether it’s through therapy, a support group, or just talking to a friend. Don’t forget to take care of yourself and find something to laugh about each day. Thank you for sticking with me through this month of Stroke Awareness. Please share this episode with friends and family who might be going through the same journey. Follow us on social media, and don’t miss our new episodes every Friday. Until next time, take care, and remember to find the silver lining in every situation.

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237. 10 Strategies to combat caregiver stress

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234. Navigating the Challenges of Caregiving: The Importance of Advocacy and Preparedness

https://www.loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/episode/219af19b/234-navigating-the-challenges-of-caregiving-the-importance-of-advocacy-and-preparedness

236. 5 Strategies to Follow before moving your loved one from their current senior living:

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Mentioned in this episode:

Surrounded by Love

You can find my book, "Surrounded by Love: One Family’s Journey Through Stroke Recovery," on Amazon. It is available as a Kindle, hardcover, paperback, and also on Audible. More details can be found on my website: https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book

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Aging in Style with Lori Williams
Aging in Style with Lori Williams is about finding the silver lining no matter what life throws at you. Whether you're a caregiver or an older adult, you can count on author and multi-award-winning senior living expert Lori Williams to provide you with education and resources on all aspects of aging. The podcast will introduce you to aging experts and inspirational seniors.
Lori pulls from her experience as the caregiver for her husband Mark who is a stroke survivor, and shares how to pay for care, navigate senior housing options, advocate for your loved one's care, and most importantly, learn to thrive not just survive as you age.
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